Love Restored: Marriage

Love Restored: Marriage

Message By Pastor Tim | Highlands Fellowship

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 (NIV)

Marriage isn’t a tourist trap. You don’t find it on a spreadsheet, and you don’t wing the technical stuff. It’s gritty. It’s work. To be united means you cling. You hold fast. You pursue with the intensity of a veteran who knows exactly what’s at stake.

I value the peace of a slow morning with Christy, a dog like Zippy at my feet, and coffee in hand. That peace is earned by following the blueprints, not making it up as you go. You don’t get the quiet without the discipline.


1. Think it? Say it.

Don’t hoard good thoughts. That’s corporate fluff behavior. If she looks like a masterpiece, tell her. If he’s standing tall, affirm it. Silence is how hearts get hardened. Speak it while it’s still “Today.”

“But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.” Hebrews 3:13 (NIV)

Pursue her with affection. Pursue him with affirmation. No excuses.


2. Know it? Do it.

In home repair, if you see the leak and walk away, the house rots. Marriage is no different. If you think of something special, execute. James is direct here: knowing the right thing and skipping it is sin. Period.

“If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.” James 4:17 (NIV)

3. Want it? Be it.

Stop waiting for a miracle and start repenting. If you want the fire you had at the start, go back to the basics. Do the things you did at first. No shortcuts. No “winging” the restoration.

“Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first.” Revelation 2:5 (NIV)

Respect the precision of the Word. Focus on the sensory experience of a life lived together. Keep it direct. Keep it honest.

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